Do woman want sex? Uhmm, do bears shit in the woods? Of course we do! Woman want sex when they feel like they are not pressured or feel as if its just an obligation. Sex is fun and can be amazing when there is no stress involved with it. If your spouse is constantly pushing you to have sex just because he needs it and there is no fun in it anymore what reasons do woman have to want to do it? None.
Woman are very sexual beings. They like to dress up and look attractive. They like to feel sexy. Not just for the outside world but in bed too.
As woman get older they start to care more about how they please their man and how they are being pleased. It’s not just about getting off. In fact, 1 out of 3 woman have trouble reaching orgasms during sex and 80% of woman have a hard time getting that big “O” from intercourse alone. So if you are not taking the time to do other things, chances are, men are the only ones getting any gratification at all. Of course the occasional quickie is fun and spontaneous but let’s face it, everyone likes sex that satisfies them in every aspect. Sex for woman is more about sharing then about just getting their partner to his peek. I also think that there are a lot of men out there that WANT to take care of their significant other sexually and that that alone is the biggest turn on for them.
Alright, well here goes nothing..or something if you actually care to enough about her orgasms and pleasure and not just yours. My list of helpful sex tips for you and your lady is down below.
- Stop chasing her around the house like a kid with his first boner. Seriously. If that’s all you want then go fuck yourself. Literally. Grab some lotion and go on redtube and hop to it. There is nothing more annoying than having your man talk about sex every other sentence. Or instead of hugging you in a loving manner they grab your ass, crotch or boobs. Seriously. Treat her like a lady. Yes you can do those things randomly..but honestly there is a limit before she gets truly annoyed. If you ask a woman what she wants in bed you are more than likely going to get answers of what her man is doing wrong.. like “i wish” statements. I wish my man kissed me more, I wish my man lasted longer, I wish my man… etc. Trust me on this. Woman talk about their sex life with other friends. So when her girlfriends come over they may know more about you than you may know yourself about your sexual performances. Side note: sex should be talked about within your relationship. If there is a problem talk about it. If your man is asking other woman how often they are having sex it’s probably because they are doing something wrong in the first place or vice versa. If you were doing something right then you’d be having just as much sex or more as the friend that is banging 5 times a day.. and well. The key goal here is to get your girl to fuck you more. Asking other woman how often they are having sex will only get you less sex and a really pissed off girlfriend. Talk with your girlfriend.
- Explore. Take the time to explore your ladies body. Make her feel beautiful. Taking away insecurities leads to better sex. If your spouse has issues with her body make her feel beautiful. And mean it too! Hopefully you are in a mature relationship where in your eyes she is the only one you see. So not only making her feel beautiful but meaning it to will get you some serious points! Feeling sexy is like the icing on the cake. Kissing her neck, her mouth, her inner thighs, the small of her back, will surely make her feel sensual. Also it feels good to have your man take his time before the big finish.
- Oral sex. Okay the end. That’s all you gotta do! Ha! Just kidding. Almost all the woman I have ever spoke to have said that if there is no oral sex it’s a deal breaker. Use your mouth the same way you would kiss your ladies lips on her face. Now, if you use turbo tongue or porno tongue while kissing your lady, remind me to write a kissing guide for you. YUK! However, it’s important while down there you try different techniques. Use your hands and fingers and watch your lady friend squirm like a hooker in church. Remember ladies, men are entitled to this pleasure as well!
- Be vocal. Don’t make stupid noises just to make stupid noises. If it feels good than vocalize it. That doesn’t mean that the entire time you should be yelling all kinds of craziness. We can tell when you are faking and I’m hoping you can distinguish between the both as well. Either you had a faker your entire relationship or you’re the man. You should be able to tell especially if you know your lady fairly well. Or woman in general.
- Take your time. For goodness sakes it’s sex! It’s one of the greatest things on earth. Why rush it. Sex doesn’t have to be an hour long but it should be long enough where both are satisfied. This is a whole package statement (no pun intended) I’m meaning from start to finish. Foreplay and all. Remember if you truly care about pleasing your lady you will take the time to make sure you both reach climax. If you feel like you are about to go, stop and do other things. Don’t just sit inside her and say don’t move… that is like.. no…no nonooooo!! Terrible turnoff. Switch positions or kiss some more. Slow down, but do it so that you are still doing something other than her thinking you ran out of batteries and you are just sitting there doing nothing.
- Have fun! Now that we have some minor details out of the way and everyone feels sexy and your lady can’t wait for you to insert her because of all the awesome foreplay you both just had with each other, have some fun. Pretend that every sex encounter you have will be the last you will have ever in your life. It’s like the saying “dance like no one is watching”. Sex can be many things but the one thing you don’t want it to be is boring. If you have more than one person out there saying that every time you had sex it was boring, then fix it. You don’t wanna go out like that. At least I wouldn’t! Even if I or he got nothing out of the relationship other than good sex at least you have that to smile about. Try some new moves. If you keep doing the same things over and over and over again eventually the sex will be labeled as boring if it wasn’t already. Just go with the flow. The positions will fall in to place. Don’t get stuck in a rut.
- Don’t take sex so serious. The less pressure and pushed someone feels to have sex the more mind blowing the sex. It should always feel natural not like it’s your job.
- It’s not just about the orgasm. Remember in the beginning part of this blog I mentioned some statistics. You are not always going to give your woman an orgasm. That would be nice for you and her but it’s not always going to happen. Men get off almost always but since woman can’t its about other things. Like some of the things I mentioned above. Make her feel good and she will be just as satisfied in the end.
- Treat your woman right.I can guarantee that if you are not an asshole you are going to get laid more. How you treat her outside of the bedroom greatly influences her on if she is going to give it up or not. Treating her like she’s your sex slave and has to do it isn’t going to get you laid. Calling her names isn’t going to get you laid. Getting mad because she doesn’t give you sex on your watch surely isn’t going to get you laid. Domestic violence doesn’t get you laid, although I have read that lots of woman in those types of relationships choose to have sex with there spouse often because they are afraid of getting hurt if they don’t. Hopefully that is not the case for anyone. Treat her with kindness and respect always.
- And 10. You don’t have to always be cuddly after sex but jumping up right after and running to your computer or turning the opposite direction, is most defiantly not cool. Men go into cool off mode right after sex and it takes longer for woman. That is why lots of men fall asleep right after and woman are like what the fuck. Be respectful and at least try and stick around a bit after.
There you have it. That is just a few of my get laid tips for you. Hopefully it works!