In the beginning of a relationship, there’s so much excitement and floating hearts it’s hard to find time to focus on anything else other than your new partner. Being together takes priority on almost every aspect of your life that you almost feel like you are living right in the heart of a fairy tale. But what happens once reality kicks in? When couples start getting comfortable they seem to put the relationship on the lower priority list and find it hard to make time to find to keep the fire alive.
In our demanding everyday lives full of responsibilities and distractions, it seems like everything else is more important. We tend to forget that we need to spend quality time together with our most intimate and special relationship. Think back at the start of your lives together. What did you do for each other that has so easily been put on the shelf? How did you keep that flame burning? How did you fall in love? Remember this is the most important person in your life.. make them feel special.
Alright, enough talk. Here’s just a few romantic ideas on how to keep the fireworks alive in your relationship.
Remember what made you fall in love in the first place. Doing so gives a reminder on why you are a couple in the first place. If at all possible, try and relive your first date.. how beautiful would that be start that day all over again!
Have a lazy day together. Do absolutely nothing. Order some food, grab a movie, and cuddle up on the couch. These lazy days will bring you closer. They are little magical moments for you and your hunny to share and enjoy each others company. Make a pact that you will not allow the outside world to distract you. Put your cell phones down, log off your face book, shut down your computers, and let love rule.
Show your appreciation. From dusk till dawn couples have the opportunity to say something nice or even show non verbal communication. Say I love you.. a lot actually. That will never get old. Thank them for making dinner or cleaning the house. Share a wink or a smile. Its the little things.
Breakfast in bed. Never underestimate the power of breakfast in bed. If your feeling extra lovey, include a special touch. My person has made me pancakes cut into the words I love you. I was very touched and felt extra loved. Adding that special something let’s them know you made an extra effort on their behalf. And hey.. maybe you’ll get dessert after.. if you know what I mean.. but ill save that for a different blog posting.
Surprise your partner. Go on an unexpected date. Get a babysitter for the night and go dancing. Go out for ice cream. Give a massage. Buy some flowers. Make their favorite dinner. Jump in the bath with them. Write I love you on the bathroom mirror. Surprises also never get old.
Write a an old fashioned love letter. In this day in age technology has taken over basically everything. Put your computer down, put your cell phone down, and pick up a pen. Writing an old school love letter expresses your emotions in a very creative format that they can turn into a personal keepsake forever. I find this to be one of the sweetest gestures anyone can do. It makes it very personal and screams I love you by a thousand percent.
Be intimate. This is non negotiable. In a healthy relationship touch is one the most nurturing forces we can express. Have fun with it. Grab some candles, throw on some lingerie, pour some wine, crawl into bed and be creative. Take your time. Kiss, massage, hug, talk… foreplay is a very good way of letting your partner know and feel that the intimacy is still there. Explore each others bodies. Sex doesn’t always have to rushed or repetitive.
Laugh together. Sometimes we are too wrapped up with work or just too tired. Hell maybe you’ve been arguing a lot. Whatever the case, try finding your sense of humor again. Throw in a funny movie, tell jokes, try something new together. Life is too short not to have fun!