What does it take to be a good girlfriend? There probably isn’t a step by step guidebook out there to follow or a class you can take but I’m sure we can all agree that we should abide by the golden rule of do onto others as you would have them do unto you. Even if you think your girlfriend is the cats pajamas, another person might think she’s the most annoying person alive. So let’s set aside our personal preferences for a bit here and realize that every relationship you form has basic things in common and girlfriend/boyfriends are no different. Mutual respect can go a long way but there are times you may need a little advice on being a better spouse to your other half. Who doesn’t want to have a wonderful, fulfilling,mature, respectful relationship anyways??
Here’s a few suggestions on how to be the super fantastic girlfriend that you know you can be.
Communication. Well duh. It’s no surprise that this is on the list. If you don’t have this even a little stop reading and get yourself a new man. This is a very important in any relationship, period. When talking with your partner try and be as clear as possible. Being a woman I know we sometimes say things in hopes he knows what the hell we are talking about. Some men can pick up on subtle hints and some men need to have exact details and still haven’t a clue. Find which communication works best for your man. If your man says he understands then believe him. Trying to drive home your points gets old real fast. The other part of communication is listening. When your significant other is talking don’t say a word. Just listen. Absorb their words and don’t allow your mind to drift. If she says there is something wrong, believe there is something wrong. Just because you may not think so doesn’t mean she is wrong and vice versa.
Mutual Respect. Don’t take each other for granted. Being a good mate isn’t all about good sex, or cleaning, cooking, running errands. Same for him as well. He’s not just there to fix stuff in the house, or make sure the cars get oil changes, or to make the bacon. If you rely on these things you start to feel taken advantage of or used. When you become a couple you are each others partner. Be thankful for what you give each other in all aspects of the relationship.
Have some shared Interests. When you are doing something you enjoy invite him. Don’t force him to stay. The fact that he sat for a few minutes with you should put a smile on your face. And you never know, maybe he will actually be interested. Same applies for him as well. If he’s in the garage building something stop in and check it out. Ask if you can help or if there is anything he needs. It may turn into a project you both can do together. Don’t ask him to go shopping with you for makeup.. obviously that isn’t going to keep him interested.
A Sense Of Being Yourself. All too often woman date people for the wrong reasons. Some need a man to feel complete. This may come across as being needy. When you have strong sense of self, you don’t need a partner to feel complete. No one likes to be used as a crutch. You want to be with someone who enhances your life. Someone you can share your life with not live your life for you. Learn to live your life for you and then find someone to share it with. Yes of course your partner should support you here and there through rough times, but there’s a huge difference between needing support and not being able to make your own decisions unless someone else tells you what to do. So be you, let him be him, and then be awesome together!
Time to Breathe. There comes a time when you or your partner need some alone time. Don’t be afraid to take some “me” time. Taking a night out with friends can be healthy and help solidify your relationship. He also needs his time as well. Football with the guys,going out for a beer, playing his favorite game, whatever it is, give him space too. Of course too much time alone can cause issues so make sure you find balance.
Trust. Being a good girlfriend is knowing when to trust your boyfriend. I’d hope you can trust him at all times but some woman have trust issues from prior relationships or trust issues just because. Mistrust often stems from insecurities and leads to jealousy. None of which is good for any type of relationship. Trust in each other gives us strength in our relationship. It gives us inner happiness and brings joy all around and life is much brighter. The feeling of believing each other is electrifying. Trust keeps us in a positive mind frame. It provides sense of security for the both of you.